Al-Adab Al-Mufrad: Behaviour with people

546

Chapter: When a man rises to give place for someone in a gathering, that person should not sit in it

Ibn 'Umar said, "The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, forbade anyone forcing a man to rise from his seat so that someone else could sit in his place."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1153
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 18
English translation : Book 46, Hadith 1153
547

Chapter: The Trust

Anas said, "I was serving the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, one day. When I thought I had finished serving him, I said, 'The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, is having a midday nap.' So I left him and there were some children playing. I stood looking at them and their game. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, came out, and came up to them and greeted them. Then he called me and sent me to get something he needed. He remained in the shade until I came back to him. I was late for my mother and she and he asked, 'What kept you?' I replied, The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, sent me for something he needed.' 'What was it?' she asked. I replied, 'It is a secret of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace.' She said, Keep the secret of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace.' I did not tell anyone that secret. If I had told it, I would have told it to her.'"
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1154
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 1
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1154
548

Chapter: When he turned, he turned completely

Abu Hurayra described the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, with the words, "He was of medium height, but nearer to being tall. He was very white with a black beard and good front teeth. He had long eye-lashes. He was very broad between the shoulders and had full cheeks. He walked on his entire foot, but they did not have a hollow. He turned completely towards people or turned his back completely. I have not seen anyone like him before or since.'"
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1155
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 2
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1155
549

Chapter: When a man is sent to another man for some reasonand he does not tell him what it is

Aslam said, "'Umar said to me, 'If I send you to a man, do not tell him why I sent you to him. If you do, Shaytan will prepare a lie for him in that.'"
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1156
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 3
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1156
550

Chapter: Should you say, "Where have you come from?"

Mujahid said, "It is disliked for a man to look sharply at his brother or to follow him with his glance when he leaves or to ask him, 'Where have you come from and where are you going?'"
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1157
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 4
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1157
Malik ibn Zubayd said, "We passed by Abu Dharr at ar-Rabadha. He said, 'Where have you come from?' We said, 'Makka - or from the Ancient House.' He said, 'Is this what you have done?' We said, 'Yes.' He said, 'And was there commerce or selling with it?' 'No,' he replied. He said, 'Then resume your actions anew.'"
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1158
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 5
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1158
551

Chapter: Someone who listens to people's conversation when they dislike for him to do that

Ibn 'Abbas reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Whoever fashions an image will have to breathe life into it and he will be punished since he will not be able to breathe life into it. Anyone who claims to have seen a vision in a dream will have to string two beads of barely together and he will be punished because he will not be able to string them together. Anyone who listens to people's conversation when they move away from him will have molten lead poured into his ears."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1159
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 6
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1159
552

Chapter: Sitting on an elevated seat

Al-'Iryan ibn al-Haytham said, "My father came to Mu'awiya when I was a body. When he reached him, he said, 'Welcome, welcome.' A man was sitting with him on the elevated seat. He said, 'Amir al-Mu'minin, who is this you are welcoming?' He said, 'This is the master of the people of the east. This is al-Haytham ibn al-Aswad.' I asked, 'Who is this?' They replied, 'This is 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr ibn al-'As.' I said to him, 'Abu so-and-so. From where will the Dajjal emerge?' He said, 'I have not seen the people of a town who asked about what is far nor left what is near. You are from the people of a town.' Then he said, 'He will emerge from the land of Iraq with the trees and palm trees.'"
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1160
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 7
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1160
Abu al-Aaliyah said that he sat on the chair of state with Ibn Abbas (ra).

In another version, Abu Jamrah stated, "I used to sit with Ibn Abbas (ra) and he made me sit on his chair of state. Once, he asked me to stay behind with him so that he may aportion a share for me in his property. So, I stayed with him for two months".
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1161
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 8
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1161
Abu Khulda reported that he heard Anas ibn Malik when he was with al-Hakam, the amir of Basra, on a seat. He said, "When the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was hot, he delayed the prayer until a cooler time of the day. When it was cold, he made the prayer early."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1162
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 9
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1162
Anas ibn Malik said, "I came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, while he was on a seat with a bad woven on it. He had a pillow under his head made of skin stuffed with fibre. There was a cloth between his skin and the seat. 'Umar visited him and wept. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'What made you weep, 'Umar?' He said, 'By Allah, Messenger of Allah, I am only weeping since I know that you are more noble with Allah than Chosroes and Caesar. They both live in what they live of this world while you, Messenger of Allah, are in the place I see.' The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Are you not content, 'Umar, that they have this world while we have the Next?' I replied, 'Yes, Messenger of Allah.' He said, 'That is the way of it.'"
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1163
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 10
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1163
Abu Rifa'a al-'Adawi said, "I came to the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, while he was speaking [i.e. on Jumu'a]. I said, 'Messenger, a stranger man has come to ask about his deen. He does not know what his deen is.' He turned to me and stopped speaking. He was brought a chair which I think had iron legs. (Hamid [one of the transmitters] said, 'I think that it was black wood like iron).'] He sat down on it and began to teach me what Allah had taught him. Then he finished his speech."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1164
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 11
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1164
Musa ibn Dihqan said, "I saw Ibn 'Umar sitting on a bridal seat wearing a red garment."

'Imran ibn Muslim said, "I saw Anas sitting on a bed, placing one foot over another."

Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1165
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 12
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1165
553

Chapter: When someone sees people conversing secretly, he should not enter where they are

Sa'id al-Maqburi said, "I passed by Ibn 'Umar who had a man with him with whom he was conversing. I went to them, and he struck me on the chest and said, 'When you find two men conversing, do not go up to them nor sit with them until they give you permission.' I said. 'May Allah make you prosper, Abu 'Abdu'r-Rahman. I hoped that I would hear something good from you.'"
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1166
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 13
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1166
Ibn 'Abbas said, "Whoever listens to people's conversations when they do not want him to do so will have molten lead poured into his ears. Anyone who lies about a dram will be obliged to string a barley bead."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1167
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 14
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1167
554

Chapter: Two should not converse to the exclusion of a third

'Abdullah reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "When there are three people, two should not converse together to the exclusion of the third."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1168
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 15
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1168
555

Chapter: When there are four people

'Abdullah reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "When there are three people, two should not converse together to the exclusion of the third for that would grieve him."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1169
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 16
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1169
Ibn 'Umar reported something similar from the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. He stated, "We said, 'If there are four?' He said, 'Then it will not harm him.'"
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1170
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 17
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1170
'Abdullah reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Two should not converse to the exclusion of another until they are mixing with people since that would distress him."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1171
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 18
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1171
Ibn 'Umar said, "When there are four, there is no harm."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1172
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 19
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1172
556

Chapter: When someone sits without someone else, he should ask his permission to leave

Abu Burda ibn Abi Musa said, "I sat with 'Abdullah ibn Sallam. He said, 'You have sat down with us, but now it is time for us to leave.' I said, 'If you like.' He got up and I followed him to the door."
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1173
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 20
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1173
557

Chapter: Do not sit in the edge of the sunlight

Qays related that his father arrived while the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, was speaking. He stood in the sun and the Prophet told him to move to the shade.
Reference : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1174
In-book reference : Book 47, Hadith 21
English translation : Book 47, Hadith 1174